Resource 9: Partnership

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Practice the Framework — Resource 9

Partnership — Telling the Story That Brings the Donor In

CDRF Phase 4  ·  Partnership
How can the donor become part of the institution’s story?

Partnership is built through story. Not a pitch, not a case statement — a story that places the donor at the center, that connects who they are and what they care about to what the institution is trying to accomplish in the world.

The key distinction: In a pitch, the institution is the hero. In a story, the donor is the hero. The institution is the vehicle through which their values become visible.

Donor outcome: The donor feels they are part of the story, working toward a shared goal.
Institutional outcome: You establish a common goal that emerges from the relationship.

The Five Paths in This Phase

Visionary
Wisdom:Tells a compelling story — naturally frames the donor as a hero
Watch for:May over-romanticize or lose the donor in abstraction. After the inspiring frame, always land in something concrete: a specific person, a specific outcome.
Critical Thinker
Wisdom:Builds credibility — the story is grounded in real data and impact
Watch for:May rely too heavily on data and lose the emotional pull. Build the emotional core first, then let the data validate it.
Relator
Wisdom:Tells the personal story well — brings genuine warmth to the narrative
Watch for:May underplay the institutional impact or broader significance. Lift the story from the personal to the possible: what does this one relationship make possible for others?
Warrior
Wisdom:Gets to the point — story is clear and respects the donor’s time
Watch for:May treat storytelling as just a step toward the close. Let the story breathe — Partnership is about co-creating, not closing.
Two story structures

IRS and CAR

The IRS Model
Intriguing · Riveting · Satisfying
I
Intriguing Beginning
Open with a specific moment, person, or question. Not institutional history — a scene that creates immediate resonance with what this donor cares about.
R
Riveting Middle
The conflict. The gap between where things are and where they could be. This is where the donor’s values become urgent.
S
Satisfying End
The resolution — and the donor’s role in it. Not “your gift will fund 20 scholarships” but “you can be the mentor that changes everything for 20 students.”
The CAR Structure
Context · Action · Results
C
Context
Where things stand and why it matters to this donor specifically. Brief — one or two sentences.
A
Action
What the partnership would make possible — framed as the donor’s action, not the institution’s need.
R
Results
What success looks like — tied directly to the values the donor named. Be specific.
Story builder

Draft your own compelling story

Think of a specific donor in your portfolio who is in or approaching the Partnership phase. Use the Story Builder tool below to draft a story in the IRS structure — as you fill in each section, the full story assembles automatically.

Story Builder tool
Downloadable worksheet with a live-assembling story preview — open it in your browser.
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The IRS structure
Donor as hero  ·  Institution as vehicle  ·  MGO as connector
I — Intriguing Beginning
What is the specific moment, person, or question that opens this story?
Write it as a scene, not a statement. Create immediate resonance with what this donor cares about.
Draft this section in the Story Builder tool above, or in your own notes.
R — Riveting Middle
What is the gap between where things are and where they could be?
Make it urgent. Make it personal. Tie it directly to the values this donor named.
Draft this section in the Story Builder tool above, or in your own notes.
S — Satisfying End
What does success look like — in this donor’s terms?
Place the donor at the center. They are not funding a program. They are making something possible.
Draft this section in the Story Builder tool above, or in your own notes.
Onboarding note — Days 61–90
The 60–90 day shift is when you move from understanding the donor’s values to beginning to shape a shared vision. You don’t need a formal story yet — but you should be able to articulate in one or two sentences what this donor could make possible through a partnership with this institution.
Resource 9 complete
You’ve drafted a compelling story for a real donor. Refine it, then bring it into your next Partnership-phase conversation — not as a script, but as the frame that invites the donor in.
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